When it comes to affection, I can never get enough. I love hugs and other physical gestures that demonstrate love and affection. For me, a good hug is all I need, when I am having an especially bad day. Okay, maybe I need something a little more—say two large coffees, a pizza and a back massage. But well, affection is definitely on top of the list.
We must never underestimate the power of a good hug. Some people are not physically affectionate, and that’s okay. But if you like such gestures from your loved ones, then read on.
As much as we love receiving physical affection, we should be able to offer the same when a loved one needs it. Here’s how you can ace your hugging game and start giving out hugs that can make your loved ones feel like their souls can just melt in your embrace.
Look for cues
I am a hugger, but I also respect the boundaries of people who aren’t. Look for cues when going in for a hug. The best thing is to simply ask for consent. Ask them if they need a hug and if they say no, please don’t smother them with your love. No is no, irrespective of what your intention is. Also, look for non-verbal cues such as them leaning in for a hug. Or if you happened to go for one and they are standing straight like they saw a vampire in broad daylight, stop right there.
Hold on as tight as it is comfortable for the other person
I believe tight hugs are the best. But not everyone prefers it that way. If your loved one loves a tight hug, go for it and make their insides melt into a burst of cheer. Start with medium closeness and if they reach out to hold you closer, do the same.
Know when to give a ‘safe haven’ hug
A ‘safe haven’ hug can be described as the kind a parent may give to comfort their child. These big bear hugs can make a person feel comforted when they are in need of some love. If your loved one seems distressed, ask them if they need a hug. And then give them a big bear hug to instantly make them feel better.
Know when to let go
The thing with hugs is that sometimes they can go from warm to uncomfortable. The timing is key here; let go when the time is right. If your loved one seems fidgety and restless, break the embrace. If they need more hugs, you can always give them another.
Be mindful
Be mindful of the other person’s physical boundaries and touch response. Do not touch them in ways they may deem inappropriate. Similarly, practice personal hygiene and smell nice. Love is good but personal hygiene is everything!
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