When A Close Friend Becomes A Stranger

Like any other relationship, friendships also evolve with time from being in the thickest of thick to hanging by a thread. If a friendship ends because of a fight, as painful as it will be, one can at least move on thinking it wasn’t worth it. What is difficult to comprehend or make sense of is when years of friendship turn into a clueless relationship. It makes you wonder what brought you close to begin with.

When you were young, you had all the time in the world to hang out with friends. As life transitions from college, internships, office to being married; there’s barely anytime to spare for yourself. While this is a classic ‘life happened’ phase, friendships that are meant to be do sustain.

Many of us may relate to this – you don’t meet your friends for months or years and yet, when you do, you pick up right from where you left off. There is always so much to tell and so little time. These are the ones that matter.

There are also friendships which may have lasted decades, but have reached a lull phase. At first, you may be in denial but sooner or later, you realise that the expiry date is near and there is nothing you can do about it.

Humans are funny beings; when things are going well, we tend to reminisce about the good times, but as soon as something goes wrong, we tend to recall only the flaws.

It is going to be painful to realise and process the loss of a decade-long friendship. As simply as it can be said but as difficult as it is going to be to voice it out, ‘if it is meant to be, it will be.’ Many of us may resort to finding things to negate that friendship and make it easier to forget and move on. Instead just remember and cherish the good times you have had with that person, the things you both may have done for each other over the years and end the chapter of this person in your life on a good note.